Turn on NPR or most of the TV news and what you’ll find are stories about the latest ‘victims’ of 2020. It’s clear that we are going through tough times and that many people are suffering. They are sick or worried that they’ll become sick. Or they’re grieving for someone who has. Or they have lost their jobs or are worried that they might lose them. Or they’re unsure about their next meal or their living situation. All are difficult things that weigh heavy on one’s mind.
I remember the saying: “It’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do about it.” I’ve met people with the greatest of handicaps who were happier than I. “Bad” things have happened to me and I have suffered as a result, as I’m sure has happened to others. Yet, regardless of the situation, I have rarely seen myself as a victim. I’ve had greater advantages than some, but less than others. It doesn’t matter because it’s been up to me to decide what to do – and I usually have done so.
In terms of the events business, victims are not going to rebuild our industry back to its prior prominence. That’s not unique; it’s true of any industry where people are complaining about what has happened and what they now don’t have as a result.
If you have been guilty of falling into the victim trap, here’s what you should do:
1) Count your blessings – you have many more than you realize.
2) Turn off the TV and radio news – if something important happens, someone will tell you. If you have to watch TV, make it the Hallmark Channel or sports.
3) Turn off your phone or put it in another room for a few hours; if your work permits you to do so.
4) Wean yourself off Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media. At the minimum, halve your screen time.
5) Pick up a book – particularly non-fiction – and read. Reading often provides a sense of perspective about what’s important.
6) Do one thing daily that you have been putting off.
7) Help others less fortunate than yourself, even if it is just picking up the phone to check on someone.
8) Get outside every day. Walk around the block, jump on your bike, jog on a trail – local restrictions permitting, of course.
9) Review your progress weekly. You’ll find that you have come a long way in a short time, and the results of one week will become the foundation for the next.
You need to develop a sense of yourself. What’s achievable today? Greatness is not for the elite few. It’s available to those who work to achieve it and see the steps they take daily as the means to achieve it.
Hey, we need your shoulder behind the wheel. It’s a collective effort. What’s the contribution you can make; what are the heights you are going to help us reach?